She claims that a straight man having sex with other men reaffirms their straightness by showing that they’re comfortable with their straight sexuality, enough so to sleep with other men. Whether a man is watching another man have sex with a woman, or a man is having a “threesome” with a woman and another guy, many men feel like something is not gay or bisexual if a woman is. He is not open about that identity, likely because he fears discrimination
When a straight man has sex with another man, however, he views himself as straight despite his sex with men Which is confusing as i kind of agree with you all that my marriage is over. In my book, still straight
It involves two related but separate issues First, why men identify as straight if they have sex with other men, and second, why straight men would have sex with other men in the first place. Watching you have sex with another male made him more excited to have sex with you, not with the other male, and treated him to a more intense orgasm in you, not in the other male. For example, when a “closeted” gay or bisexual man has sex with another man, he views that sex as reflecting his secret gay/bisexual identity
The guy i'm sleeping with says that he wants the best for my dd, and if that means we stop seeing each other and maintain my marriage, then so be it
